Turning 30 conjures up lots of emotions, both positive and negative. For some, it’s a time to laugh (or cry) at the goals set in one’s 20’s without knowing anything about how life actually works. For others, it’s a time to reflect on the progress made and build a plan to continue on the path of personal growth and development. And you know what, there’s nothing wrong with either of those mindsets because life has tons of twists and turns.
While I am blessed to have checked off a great majority of the goals I set out to accomplish by 30, I’m still working towards a lot. I was the one in my early 20’s who thought my husband and I would be working on our third kid by now. But again, things change. I started to actually research how much it would cost to raise one child, and that quickly dwindled my uninformed desire to have five kids down to two and a possible — even that’s pushing it.
Life happens; things change. You can either sulk about missed opportunities from your 20’s, or make some edits and power forward into your next decade of life. In the spirit of making edits, there are some habits I’ve acquired over the years that I would like to
strike through by the time I hit the big 3-0! Read below for my top 3:
HITTING THE SNOOZE BUTTON
I’m not a morning person, and this has always been the case. I am notorious for pushing the limits of how long I can stay in the bed before I’m running late. Going so far as to calculate how much in advance my alarm should start just so that I can snooze as much as possible. My parents and I would fight daily when it was time for me to get up for school. “5 more minutes” was my go to line, and it still is.
While I love my sleep, snoozing really doesn’t help. You actually feel more groggy once you finally get up because your sleep has been disturbed every few minutes to snooze. It’s exhausting and I’m over it, and I’m sure Marcus is too since he sleeps next to me and my alarm. I’m going to start waking up and being productive before work starts. I’ve tried it a couple times and I got so much done — completing a load of laundry, getting a cardio session in at the gym, or straightening up around the house. I’ve also been reading a lot of books centered around how multi-millionaires spend their 24 hours, and a common habit is waking up early to get the creativity flowing. I’m going to try this out, instead of subjecting myself to the extreme sport of racing the clock.
DOING THINGS I DON’T ACTUALLY WANT TO DO
This one is a major problem for a lot of people. Saying yes when you really mean no. Especially for people-pleasers like me. I love to help and to make my close friends and family happy, even if that means I’ve stretched myself far too thin at certain times. But in this 29th year of life, the answer will be NO more often. And I’m not going to feel bad about it.
I’ve actually started on this already and my quality of life has drastically improved, both in my personal and professional life. During pre-marital counseling, our pastor had us separately complete a questionnaire to determine our communication style and driving force. My test revealed that I thrive when I have ample time to reset and recharge, and that Marcus’ job as my husband would be to help me preserve my energy. Clearly the perfect job for Marcus because he learned this early on as an entrepreneur; time is money and not everyone deserves it.
Now that I have implemented the word ‘no’ into my daily life, I feel so refreshed and energized. There is truly no reason why you should be in situations that don’t benefit you just because you feel bad saying no.
BEING AFRAID TO TRY NEW THINGS
Life is too short to not experience all the possibilities out there. I’ve been blessed with sound mind, body, and spirit and I should take advantage of that more often. No more cooking the same few meals because I know Marcus will like them, or traveling to beaches because we know what to expect, or stifling my business ideas because I’m afraid of failure. I’m going to do more exploring, experimenting and testing in this next phase of life because who knows, maybe I’ll acquire a new skill, hobby, or interest along the way.
Do you have a list of let-gos? Share them below!